Is A Support Group for You?

Understandably, some people shy away from the idea of joining a grief and loss support group. For some, the idea of discussing their very personal problems with “outsiders” is too uncomfortable. They feel much more comfortable in one-to-one situations. Still others are so preoccupied and overwhelmed by their own problems that they are unable to listen to our respond to the grief of others. However, for many other people, a support group has been of tremendous help in dealing with the death of a close family member or friend. Support groups provide a setting for people to tell their stories, admit their fears, vent their anger and discuss their frustrations. For one thing, it is a tremendous solace to be in the presence of others who have suffered loss and to discover that your feelings are shared by others.

What a relief to hear others say, “Me too!” when you’ve thought your feelings were abnormal or bizarre — feeling anger toward the person who has died, being certain you can hear that person coming in the door each night or being convinced that you’ll never recover from the pain and emptiness you feel at this moment.

Typically, the members of support groups tend to be extremely helpful to each other — offering practical suggestions, reassurance and insights, or simply sharing problems.

Is a support group for you? Only you can answer that. However, whether it be a formal support group or our own grouping of family and friends, we all need to find meaningful support following the death of someone we love. For it is true that, when people feel supported, they are more likely to take better care of themselves. The Hospice of the Piedmont Bereavement Department has a variety of opportunities to gain support in a group setting. Please see the Calendar of Events and call to register for any of our upcoming opportunities.

A support group can also be of great benefit in dealing with loneliness. Many people who have lost someone special and are trying to cope with terrible loneliness worry about being a burden to friends and family members. But, in a support group, one can feel comfortable and safe talking about their loneliness and fears.